Is Going to College a must?

If I had been asked that question 10 years ago and prior, I would have said “YES, by all means!”How can anyone have a good future without a good college education? After all, society and our well meaning parents and relatives have said so over and over. Deep learning is a gift we all want for our children. Where else can they get that than from receiving an education from a good pre-school which will help them get into the right elementary, middle, and high school and all the way to college? For some, the right place for deep learning about the world and life can be an elite university, where time to explore and contemplate is a luxury worth the price of tuition. But Yale Professor William Deresiewicz warns in his newly published Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite, as parents we should be wary that assembly line preparation of young heroes for college admission may have unintended consequences. He writes:

"So extreme are the admission standards now, so ferocious the competition, that kids who manage to get into elite colleges, by definition, never experienced anything but success. The prospect of not being successful terrifies them, disorients them, defeats them. The cost of falling short becomes not merely practical but existential."

The success that he refers to is regurgitating information and acing standardized tests, not success in real world accomplishments.

What is the effect when report cards and credentials become more important than learning and character, particularly learning how to fail and try again?

Deresiewicz continues:

"The result is a violent aversion to risk. You have no margin for error; so you avoid the possibility you will make an error. This is one of the reasons that elite education has become so inimical to learning."

At River Oak, our Learners experiment, explore, discover — and fail. Yes, fail…many times over and we celebrate that. The main lesson of the Hero’s Journey is that heroes get knocked down, pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and go back into the arena, as many times as necessary. Winning or losing isn’t the issue – it’s the grit, persistence, perseverance, and courage to never give up.

How ironic that encouraging Learners to fail early, cheaply and often isn’t just great training for life, but is becoming such a rare trait that it might impress the admissions committee of an elite university.

River Oak Academy: equipping and inspiring heroes. No sheep allowed; especially excellent ones.